Started of my morning reading/seeing an article that deeply disturbed me. People, are so hard to understand..why do they do what they do. It makes you question, if you ever really knew them at all, was everything they did and said lies? Are people born devious or does their environment steer them that way? Is there a moment of weakness between doing whats right and whats wrong. When kids do something wrong, you for once can even forgive them and move on but when adults do wrong..where does one go? Do parents not have a responsibility towards their kids? If they do not teach them by values and ethics and example...who will? Don't parents realize how much of an influence they have on their kids and how kids look up to them.
Kids live by their parents example, and we as parents always need to remember that...even in those moments that we might be on the brink of faltering... we should stop and think what will this do to the future of our kids, what will this do their mindset, their faith in us, their future hopes, dreams, desires, relationships. Since the day they are born we have dreams, aspirations, of what they will be and what they will become. We as parents cannot continue to tell our kids what to do..we have to show them what to do. If they see us reaching for the sun, they themselves will be more inclined to reach for them too. We have to teach them that they may fail, but guess what they will land among the stars. And part of not achieving their goal is also a learning process- sometimes we win and sometimes we just try harder next time.
When parents do wrong, its also the kids that get lost along the way. The kids are the ones that do not comprehend of why something was done. They have to deal with the watchful and judgmental eyes of the society that they live in. They feel this sudden loss of friends/home/life as they knew it because of no fault of their own. I feel bad for the kids involved and the bad choices that their parents made and now they have to live with their mistakes forever. The mental footprints, that mistakes like these leave on the kids minds is unerasable. Parents may move away, and take all that they have with them..but can they give back the future moments/relationships that they have stolen from their kids. How do these kids cope with this sudden loss of their lives....
So before we parents judge our kids actions/mindframes..we should look inside ourselves and see where exactly we stand on certain issues in life. We are growing alongside our kids and as we ask ask them to strive higher and higher in life they are watching us with their innocent watchful eyes to see what we do in our lives....Live by example and not always by words!
I hope the kids of these households find peace within themselves one day. I also wish them lots of strength and positive energy to deal with all the harsh looks/comments that are gonna be coming their way for the rest of their lives. I wish those kids a new beginning within finding themselves from within!
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